Love this flip. Your story reminds me of a mantra I got from something a college roommate said to me once when I was passive-aggressively and loudly washing a sink full of dishes she had left. She walked in and said, "You're doing the dishes!" I said "yes," probably very sulkily. She observed for a moment, and then said, "You shouldn't do that if it hurts your heart to do it." There are some things I don't do now because I realize that doing them would hurt my heart, and a lot of other things I do because even if they're not my favorite, they WON'T hurt my heart to do!